If you tuned into my #livewithlayla last week, you would have heard me curse the imposter that creeps into our minds and plays havoc with our thoughts.
Before I get into the nitty gritty, let me just explain exactly what ‘Imposter Syndrome’ is:
Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which one doubts one’s accomplishments and has a persistent internalised fear of being branded a fraud. In ‘our world’ basically, imposter syndrome is when you believe that you just aren’t good enough to be doing what you’re doing, and in turn, is stopping you from taking your beauty business to the next level, whether it be to ask your clients to leave you a review on your Facebook page, enter a nail or beauty competition, put your beauty business forward for an award, etc… sound familiar?
Actually, it’s incredibly common and studies have shown that 6 out of every 10 women suffer from imposter syndrome.
As a Beauty Boss, you have worked hard to get to where you are. You are incredibly skilled (you have the certificates from The Creative Beauty Group on the wall to prove it!) and have spent years building relationships with your loyal clients… does that sound like someone who should be doubting themselves?
Here are some tips to beating that self-sabotage and getting out of your own way.
1) Share the shame
It’s the age-old tale, a problem shared is a problem HALVED. Sharing your “shame” with a friend, family member or colleague kicks that feeling out of your head, and the chances are, your friend will know exactly what you’re talking about.
2) If Beyonce can have an alter ego, so can you!
It’s not exactly the same scenario, but you get my point! By naming your imposter, will help you to separate you from her, or ‘it’. If you want to take it one step further, next time she takes over your thoughts, say out loud ”NO! _____ I am not putting up with your shit today!”
3) Separate feeling from facts
When these thoughts and feelings come up that make you think you aren’t good enough, just remind yourself, “feelings are not facts!”. Just because you feel a certain way, doesn’t mean that that is fact.
4) Reward yourself
Get out of the habit of thinking you should be waiting for someone else you say “well done” to you, because if you don’t get it, you are only feeding that doubtful voice in your head! If you know you’ve done a job well, pat yourself on the back. This reinforces the idea that you are in control of what you think and only you can change it.
In my LIVE, I spoke of imposter syndrome taking control of the thoughts of every single educator I have ever recruited at The Creative Beauty Group, yet some of those ladies now, are some of the most confident ladies I know, and have ZERO problem with standing in front of a class teaching now 🙂
If you follow the inspirational quotes that we dish out on our Instagram, then you would have already spotted this little beauty!
Finally, I wanted to share that I have heard from so many of you since my LIVE on this topic; I am so thrilled that it gave you the confidence to move forward with your goals.
You ALREADY have what it takes, you just needed a small blonde with a big mouth to remind you!
Until next time, keep bossing it!